UNIVERSITY SLOGANS: "NO MEANS NO"

Children abuse the word “no” when asked to do something that they might not necessarily want to do. As these children grow up, it is almost as if that word completely disappears from their vocabulary entirely. All over the world, girls are put in uncomfortable situations that force them to repeatedly say “no”, just to be in control of their own bodies. In most instances, the perpetrator tends to tune out that plead. Sexual assault is a critical issue that occurs all over the world, and often on university campuses. Stories of sexual assault are heard so often that it is not necessarily big news to people when it happens. It is frightening to think that this is an everyday occurrence, and not many are able to prevent such an awful thing. 

College parties are typical places where a perpetrator seeks a victim. Girls who attend parties and might not necessarily know, or care, about their limits are usually in a bad condition and are incapable of giving consent in a certain situation. Boys might assume the girl is allowing them to take control, because she might need someone to take care of her. However, a girl’s drunken words are not necessarily her sober thoughts. No drunk girl gives consent to someone else in control of her body. 

In other situations, however, there might not be a drunk, impulsive male who has abused alcohol for both himself and the victim, seeking power over women. Offenders come in all shapes and sizes, and can even be found outside of parties. Relationships are where some incidents of sexual assault occur. Cute boyfriends with aspirations and characteristics of kindness and respectfulness are still capable of committing the crime of sexual assault. There is no typical profile of a perpetrator with specific characteristics. However, the actions are the same with all, and either way, no girl gives consent to assault.

[New School University creates a sexual assault prevention poster, regarding communication and consent.]

Preventing sexual assault on university campuses only works with cooperation from family, a close group friends, and faculty members at the university; they will always be there to support a victim when put in a dangerous situation. Understanding the consequences and managing ideas for prevention might help those who have come across the problem of sexual assault. 

As a victim myself, I have learned to cope, and I have understood how serious this issue is and how this happens much more frequently than what is expressed. My experience has helped me grasp a better understanding of the world in which we live in, and how to live a happier, healthier life. Although feelings of frustration and depression took over my existence, I learned that emitting a hopeful, happy attitude into the world is ideal when learning to cope from such a terrifying place. 

If you know anyone who has been a victim of sexual assault, please contact a trusted friend or family member, or call The Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network at 1-800-656-HOPE. Getting help is healthy. Speaking out about sexual assault is not something that should be disregarded, but it is something that should be voiced and should be heard. 

Written by: Kelly Peacock